Here & There Podcast S03E22 - Dealing With Sex Addiction - July 14, 2017

July 21, 2017
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***WARNING: Longer than usual #HnTPodcast post, even longer podcast following.

For as long as I can remember, I have been keeping #secrets. That being said, there's nothing I've found more freeing than finally opening up and sharing a failure or struggle with someone who I knew would love me in spite of my secret coming out into the light.

But if trading secrets for honesty is so liberating, then why is it so difficult? In my case and many others, it is because of #shame.

In his book Jesus Is Better Than You Imagined, Jonathan Merritt wrote:

"Secrets draw their power from shame. I convince myself that I am too messed-up, too tainted, or too tarnished for others to accept. Or maybe people will think I am a fraud. As I believe these lies, shame grows into fear, which is almost always at some level, fear that if others truly know me, they won't love me. Or at least love me as much or in the same way. In order to release my secrets, I must uncurl my white-knuckled fingers from deep desires: My desire to be perfect. My desire to be liked. My desire to be in control. My desire to be successful."

"Shame keeps us from telling our own stories and prevents us from listening to others tell their stories," says Brené Brown. "We silence our voices and keep our secrets out of the fear of disconnection." In the end, shame steals the very thing it promises: meaningful, authentic connections with others. Pursuing a life of honesty means to reveal who I truly am and assert that my #story too belongs at the table.

During #Segue2017 Tier II, Joel and Avin Reimer bravely shared their family's story of working through Joel's sex addiction while serving in South East Asia as Global Workers. I can't thank them enough for their #courage in opening up about this painful time in their lives, and for sharing how they are working through it together.

With their permission, we recorded this 90-minute session for a Here and There Podcast so other GWs could learn from their story, be encouraged to open up about their challenges, and get help where and when they need it.

We know it's a longer-than-usual podcast, but in order to preserve the integrity of their full story (bad and good), we're presenting it to you entirely in one piece. The pause button is your friend! 🎙️⏯️👌

"This is my command - be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the LORD your God is with you wherever you go." - Joshua 1:9

#sexaddiction #shameandgrace #redemptionstories

Here & (T)here Podcast S03E21 - Returning Home (From Home) - July 7, 2017

July 14, 2017
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Welp, he's back...in #Slovaktown! Similar to Anna Armitage, Canada had it's fill of Sheldon Armitage and sent him #packing. After a refreshing, but rigorous home assignment (don't call it a holiday!) (or a #sabbatical!), the Armitage clan returned home with full hearts and extra baggage to #Slovakia to resume their global working duties in #Bratislava. Was home assignment a valuable experience? Does Sheldon still want to work globally? Did they raise more #support? Did their international church explode in their absence? Did their girls convert into #Canadians while here? Are the Armitages going back (home) #rejuvenated and ready for the work ahead? All these questions and more are answered on the last ever edition of the Here & (T)here Podcast. Fire up the BBQ, pour yourself a non-mood altering cold beverage, and enjoy this reflection on a "furlough in the books"! 

Here & (T)here Podcast S03E20 - Unexpected Transitions - June 30, 2017

July 10, 2017
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In Part III of the Mid·life Cri·sis Series I asked Rob Moore to open up the Vulnerability Vault and share about his family's #unexpected transition from Global Work in #Thailand to pastoring in Montreal, Québec. While Rob and Jana Brecht Moore were in Canada for an extended home assignment "processing life", #change and #opportunity came their way which ultimately led to them returning to live in their passport country. If you've ever known the pain of a crisis in your own family, or walked closely with another GW suffering while serving overseas, I know the discussion on this latest episode of the #HnTPodcast will be meaningful to you. #processinglife #crisis #notmidlife #threeoffour

Here & (T)here Podcast S03E19 - Sick of Being Sick - June 23, 2017

June 30, 2017
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I've often said, "Being sick, sucks." Nobody from our GW crew understands this more than Adrian M. Thomas right now. Being sick can seem like all fun and games until you are grounded from flying, separated from your immediate family, and you're prevented from global working! On the latest edition of the #HnTPodcast, I chatted with Adrian about some fun rumours about his sickness, what he's sick of (not Sharon MacDonald Thomas, but maybe James Guskjolen), and how he's been dealing with sitting on the GW bench these last 5 months. For a guy who's got every right to be sick and tired of being sick and tired, he sure doesn't sound sick! 😉 #sicksucks #sickandtired #onthebench #insicknessandhealth #dominicanrepublic #everydayministries 🤒🤕😷🤢🤧😵🛫🇩🇴️👎🏼

Here & (T)here Podcast S03E18 - For He’s A Jolly Good Feller - June 16, 2017

June 23, 2017
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While at #GenCon16 in Montreal, I reconnected with someone I barely knew in the GW world, Jeremy Feller. I'd only met Jeremy once before back in 2011 at an all-Africa retreat just outside Malindi, Kenya, where we played some solid beach volleyball with former athlete and self-talker, Murray Cornelius. I've been in a mostly #textual relationship with Jeremy for just over a year now, and in this latest edition of the Here & (T)here Podcast, I attempted to bring our newfound friendship out into the light. No matter what you thought of him before this, I know you'll agree after listening that he's a jolly good Feller, which nobody can deny. 💪🏼🏐🏖🇪🇹🤦🏾‍♂️ #manbehindthemyth #RDsarepeopletoo #habeshaguy #HnTPodcast #Season3

Here & (T)here Podcast S03E17 - The Zoe Network - June 9, 2017

June 14, 2017
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According to Leanne Toews McAlister, Zoe is the Greek word for "life". When she launched The Zoe Network a few years ago, it was her goal to expose our fellowship to the mission activities of our Global Workers who were "bringing life" to women around the globe through their acts of service. Sheldon and Matt ran into Leanne at #Segue 2017 who was "sans Darcy" at the time and asked her all about The Zoe Network's inception and first few years of supporting projects that empower women and bring spiritual transformation to whole communities. The time for DREAMING is over, and Leanne is imploring people to get off the couch and GET REAL with women! Hope you enjoy the latest edition of the #HnTPodcast. #dreamsmaller #thinksmaller #linkarms #smallprojects #smallthingsconsistently

Here & (T)here Podcast S03E16 - Making Murray Human Again - June 2, 2017

June 7, 2017
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Once per season, our Fearless Leader, aka "The Donald", sits down for a chat with the HnT Podcast. I caught up with Murray Cornelius on a warm and quiet Friday evening at #Segue 2017 in beautiful Abbotsford, BC. In an attempt to steer away from serious global worker matters, I asked Murray about a few of his #Favourite Things, and he did not disappoint. He may not be a big fan of raindrops on roses or whiskers on kittens, but he does have a favourite RD and travel destination! Grab some #chai (another fav thing) and listen in while I try and make Murray #human again!

Here & (T)here Podcast S03E15 - The Forgotten Children of Slovakia - May 26, 2017

May 30, 2017
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Raising #kids is tough work. I know, because I'm currently co-raising two delightful teen-aged monsters. Raising kids across cultures is even tougher work. This too I know, because I've listened carefully to Global Worker families share openly about raising their third-culture kids and #teens for the past 8 years. Sitting at my kitchen table a few weeks ago, I had the privilege of interrogating the Forgotten Armitage Children of #Slovakia about Global Worker kid life and growing up between two worlds. Like all good pods with kids, you'll love the honesty, hilarity, maturity and calamity that ensues on the latest edition of the Here and (T)here Podcast. One thing you'll agree on is that Sheldon and Anna are doing a fantastic job as GW #parents and raising their kids in a beautiful culturally blended family destined to change the world. Grab a juice bar lady drink and have a listen! 🎙️🤦🤷💁🍹🇸🇰😂🙌 #TCK #HnTPodcast

Here & (T)here Podcast S03E14 - The Dark Side of Missions? - May 19, 2017

May 24, 2017
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Recently we came across an interesting article about missionary burnout. It seems to be a theme on the past few podcasts but this article generated a lot of reaction and dialogue between global workers. So, being the relevant dudes that we are, we decided to chip in our two cents and examine hot topics like burnout, stress and the sacred cow itself...sabbaticals.

Are global workers soft? Does a Wall Street investment banker have the same levels of stress as a global worker in Timbuktu? Should sabbaticals be available to all or only those on the 76th level of the missional org chart?

Listen to Matt and Shel spare with each other, challenge each other and ultimately love each other on the latest episode.

#sabbaticals #hntpodcast #mattisawesome #stress

Here & (T)here Podcast S03E13 - Do Missionaries Care About Missionary Care? - May 12, 2017

May 17, 2017
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Ah, Missionary Care. Probably the single most debated issue I have discussed with Global Workers over the years. Some GWs need a little, others, a lot. Many missionaries feel well supported by their regional leadership and/or the home team, and some wonder if anyone knows they're still out there! While Melissa Williams (- the Melissa + a Scott) was hanging out at the Missionary Guest House for a couple of days a few weeks ago, we chatted about this topic, and Scott shared some creative "care" ideas with me. The opinions expressed by Scott and myself in this podcast are those of a GW and former Missionary Care Guy and do not necessarily reflect your opinion or the official policy or position of any sending agency of the #PAOC. There, we disclaimed it, now you can safely listen to it! #missionarycare #membercare #haveyoursay #HnTpodcast